On Sep 24, 2008, at 2:12 PM, addwag wrote:<\/p>\n
i was thinking about that analogy that monk gave you about billy’s bakery..<\/p>\n
what if you love cupcakes and then you resist getting a cupcake and then after a while you no longer crave or need cupcakes- which is the goal?<\/p>\n
then do you lose what you love because you resist it? and if so, what do you love instead?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
i think that for him it is all about controlling and submlimatng desire.\u00c2\u00a0 and chanelling that energy into meditation (and all the god stuff.)<\/p>\n
but for me, it is more important as an analogy of changing behaviors.\u00c2\u00a0 understanding how behaviors are created and reinforced.\u00c2\u00a0 positive and negative.<\/p>\n
i *had* to do this (w\/o really understanding the process) when i got off of caffeine 10 years ago.\u00c2\u00a0 i had to do this just this past month with learning to incorporate the neti pot into my twice-daily ablutions.\u00c2\u00a0 and i’ve definitely had to do this with meditation. but there is a point of inflection, where it gets easier and easier to do (and harder and harder to not do.)\u00c2\u00a0 that is the real point.<\/p>\n
but when you leave something behind, you always have the memory.\u00c2\u00a0 sometimes its not the love for the thing itself, but your desire for something.\u00c2\u00a0 and sometimes desire is something good to get rid of.\u00c2\u00a0 covetousness desire.\u00c2\u00a0 greedy desire.<\/p>\n
the IFN makes it so i don’t like chocolate.\u00c2\u00a0 i used to *love* chocolate.\u00c2\u00a0 and for now, that love is gone.\u00c2\u00a0 and at first it was terribly sad for me.\u00c2\u00a0 i felt like i was missing part of myself.\u00c2\u00a0 but love of chocolate isn’t me, its just something i had.\u00c2\u00a0 it was replaced with love of watermelon.\u00c2\u00a0 now that watermelon is no longer in season, i have love of apples and peanut butter.\u00c2\u00a0 things come and go.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
On Sep 24, 2008, at 2:12 PM, addwag wrote: i was thinking about that analogy that monk gave you about billy’s bakery.. what if you love cupcakes and then you resist getting a cupcake and then after a while you no longer crave or need cupcakes- which is the goal? then do you lose what … Continue reading Apples and Peanut Butter<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[49,8,5,13],"class_list":["post-135","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-daily-update","tag-food","tag-meditation","tag-memory","tag-side-effects"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/135","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=135"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/135\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=135"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=135"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/melanarrative.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=135"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}